Achieving what i want

[Persian]

any of u guys stop yourself from going out and partying or what ever ... cause u want to reach your goals ..

im going through this whole phase now which i cant seem to have fun going out anymore to clubs and all...i have no motivation at all ... all is in my mind is i need to gain 5-6 more pounds of pure muscle and at any cost & that is all its like i have a fucking competition with myself and i cant loose .....

i was never a clubbing person and meaningless sex never meant shit for me .i was never hungry for sex ..cuz i always got it when i wanted it and i always got girls when i wanted ...but now its just i need more mass i need to reach my goal at any cost .... i love myself more then women ..anyways i live in the middle eat who am i kidding if i was in states diff story lol ..anyways back 2 my story

its the weekend here all my buddies are out clubbing partying ...i was driving around looking for american sweet potatoes (hard to find here).. i know i can go out and have fun and still get to my goals ..but this way im prepared mentally ..by sitting home and researching and eating !!

loads of my friends tell me im gay im dumb im stupid ...bla bla ..they try 2 belittle me well they aint friends mostly haters ...they tell me ur not living life ...when i go out people ask me about a diet i always have a girl turning round & saying im happy with my body i dont care i eat what i want ..im like aaahaaaaa ok then lol i never said anything ...ive cut most of them out my life anyays ...

im investing all my time in eating and staying away from any activity which would affect me in a negative way pretty much no social life since theres nothing 2 do but club club drink drink here ..

i love going to the gym ..im so pumped before i go in ..and im sad after my work out since i cant pump anymore weight .. like i dont need pre work out ...cuz im so psyched ..on chest days im like a little kid in a candy store ...

i will do it ...at any cost ...phuck this ... lol
sorry just had 2 open up

 

[Trapology]

any of u guys stop yourself from going out and partying or what ever ... cause u want to reach your goals ..

im going through this whole phase now which i cant seem to have fun going out anymore to clubs and all...i have no motivation at all ... all is in my mind is i need to gain 5-6 more pounds of pure muscle and at any cost & that is all its like i have a fucking competition with myself and i cant loose .....

i was never a clubbing person and meaningless sex never meant shit for me .i was never hungry for sex ..cuz i always got it when i wanted it and i always got girls when i wanted ...but now its just i need more mass i need to reach my goal at any cost .... i love myself more then women ..anyways i live in the middle eat who am i kidding if i was in states diff story lol ..anyways back 2 my story

its the weekend here all my buddies are out clubbing partying ...i was driving around looking for american sweet potatoes (hard to find here).. i know i can go out and have fun and still get to my goals ..but this way im prepared mentally ..by sitting home and researching and eating !!

loads of my friends tell me im gay im dumb im stupid ...bla bla ..they try 2 belittle me well they aint friends mostly haters ...they tell me ur not living life ...when i go out people ask me about a diet i always have a girl turning round & saying im happy with my body i dont care i eat what i want ..im like aaahaaaaa ok then lol i never said anything ...ive cut most of them out my life anyays ...

im investing all my time in eating and staying away from any activity which would affect me in a negative way pretty much no social life since theres nothing 2 do but club club drink drink here ..

i love going to the gym ..im so pumped before i go in ..and im sad after my work out since i cant pump anymore weight .. like i dont need pre work out ...cuz im so psyched ..on chest days im like a little kid in a candy store ...

i will do it ...at any cost ...phuck this ... lol
sorry just had 2 open up

this is whats important dude

you love going to the gym

the same things that make your friends happy isnt the same stuff thats gonna make you happy

i dont go out much either and all of my people say the same stupid shit, but what gives me a good quality of life isnt the same stuff that give it to them

same goes for you, dont feel bad or weird that you enjoy doing other things with you life that make you happy that arnt "normal" to everyone else

if seen you on these boards for years working your ass off to get where you are, dont ever let anyone try to discredit or belittle you.....if these people are your friends they should keep their mouths shut and support you, cause thats what friends are supposed to do

 

[Khem]

As long as you're happy, it doesn't matter what they say, really.

 

[RJH8541]

i agree. i am totally different in that I never let the gym rule my life, but if that is what keeps you going, more power to you.

Now my kids are my life. I still train and lift heavy but i don't make it a priority. My family comes first.

You've worked hard all these years man, fuck everyone else.

 

[BikerTrash]

Op , definalty a good post and a inside on your desire and determination to reach your goals .
I agree with you on alot of what your saying , I dont go partying or clubbing but I do eat whatever the hell I want and my body does great with it .
I as well have the same desire and drive along with determination to reach my goals but i dont think its a narrow mindeset just focused soley on gym time . I love the gym and the abuse it brings and the testing of my self weekly but I have a family , My family will always come first no matter what .I have found a blance in my life that allows me to do my gym time and not conflict with family time by lifting from 4:45am to 6:15am everyday so that I get it done and over and not take time away from the family . My hat is off to you for your complete focus on bettering yourself and not letting anything stand in your path to success , However, dont let that same drive and desire burn you out to quick and break you down . Find a happy medium Its fine to have direction in life and focus but the over doing of something will naturally lead to burnout of the subject

 

[millenium girl]

All I can say is that it's not stupid to do everything differently to achieve your goals.

Let me tell you something: I'm not a competitor but I have no social life because I can't stand it when something comes up and that I can't hit the gym. I don't eat with my colleagues because they don't understand why I eat healthy all the time. I don't go out because I want to be alert enough to have a good workout the next day ....

 

[Dawgpound_Hank]

Pers, I think anyone that is in this game seriously has dealt with all the issues you mention and more. It's called dedication brutha, and you got it. Keep that attitude!

 

[BigSickD]

Just an addiction

 

[Shovel]

Just an addiction

Period.

It's either in your blood or it's not...

 

[Guest]

i dunno i think u can still go out enjoy urself and get where u want my buddy jsut did canadian nationals for the first time he placed 13th out of 24 in his class not bad for first crack at nationals anyways besides his preconest diet time he will come out with us to the club he usually doesnt drink which doesnt bug us but he enjoys himself sometimes he might have to leave a bit earlier then us but he still comes out at least for a bit he comes out to restuarnts with us we order everything bad he orders something good or doesnt eat right then like you can still have a social life and get to where you want to be cuz in the end when your 90 years old have no friends or family and ur body isnt jacked any more cuz ur 90 you dnt even have stories too look back on i dunno just my 2 cents im not dissing you guys in anyway either i think its bad ass u guys have that much dedication but i do think u can mix your lives its not jsut black and white

 

[wukillabee]

I'm the same way and many of my friends looking in from the outside will say i live a boring life compared to their single still living at mom and dad's house life. Yes i work a 9-5 job, then hit the gym, then come home to my amazing gf to have dinner, then go to bed and do it again. If i get a weekend off ill spend it with her, nice dinner/movie/relax then back to the work week. When something pops up ill always make time for my close friends to go out with them but that's maybe once or twice a month, rest of the time i'm on the daily grind making money, acheiving my personal goals, having a successful relationship.

Maybe on the outside that sounds boring to someone who is single, sleeps with random women, parties 3x/week, no rent to pay just play. Well for me i feel i've been there done that and now onto bigger and better things. My real/close friends understand and i don't let the little things in life bother me because for once i feel very self-fullfilled in my lifestyle and what i do.

Just keep/stay focused but also find some time to keep some sanity if it's becoming too much and go out a night or two with friends to help balance things out bro. This is a lifestyle many outside of frawn upon and will never understand since they will never step foot into trying it or understanding it. Keep it up bro!

 

[Persian]

i agree with many of u guys .. but i live in the wrong country ...

the middle east is so messed up ... the mentality here is so freaking messed ... life here is just so fake ...ultimate fake 80% of the women at clubs or outside are turned into whores .... ratio girl 2 guy here is probably 8 guys to 1 girl NO JOKE ....
life is so fake out here ...ugly fake ..no ones real ...this city has changed ive lived here for 26 years ... and i tell ya .. its changed 180 degrees ....
its filled with eastern european hoes now that barely speak english they ask u sh!t like pay for my saloon buy me dinner i want bag gucci in there manly accent ... i just cant wait to get the eff out
im moving to canada hopefully mid 2012 ...

i got no friends 2 b honest cant call them real friends ... 95% of them are all a bunch of useless punks that just wanna drink and drink and drink they aint real men to help u out and all u cant even have a proper conversation with them ...they freak me out ...they r round 28 29 30 but they look old cracked up weak ..theyll do anything for women ..like backstab lie degrade themselves ..sad


over 2 years ago i went through a suicidal state ...no joke ..depression ..i had no friends round me they werent there ...i went by it all myself .. im not complaining im actually happy cuz i realized hey this place aint for me & these rent real friends .. the only thing that kept me going was gym ...during that time ....id go in all alone ... my backbones been my mom ..i live alone but she always prepares my meals and sh!t she fones me and says i cooked u 5 pounds of chicken breast 45 eggs come pick it up ...and my dad past 3 years we been getting closer ..cuz during child hood he was always drunk so u know ..i never grew up knowing him that well but now we r pretty close which is cool ..
he buys my supplements!! haha im 28 years old !! they r my best friends rite now ...

 

[Dawgpound_Hank]

she fones me and says i cooked u 5 pounds of chicken breast 45 eggs come pick it up

Dayummm dude you got it made!

Pers, family is the rock bro. We go thru life, make friends here and there, and we move on or they move on eventually. However, family is always there.

 

[Freezerdude]

Bro like Hank said friends will come and go depending on "their needs" but your family will always be there! I'm glad to see you have such a good relationship with your parents as you get old they will become your priority and without my wife,kids and Parents I don't know where I would be right now.. They all support me in what I do and like to do.. They all would much rather see me at the gym eod than laid up at a bar getting into trouble.. Dude follow your heart and dreams everything else will fall into place when the time is right! Good post bro..

 

[A.B]

Dayummm dude you got it made!

Pers, family is the rock bro. We go thru life, make friends here and there, and we move on or they move on eventually. However, family is always there.

Ain't that the truth. You're lucky if you find one friend that would go to bat for you in your life. One person that you know u could call in the middle of the night that would be there for you.

Family is blood and always there

 

[Persian]

thanks guys..
its true family will always be there ...its funny how i use to think when i was younger and immature ... i thought friends would be there lol ...

good thing about my parents is they appreciate bodybuilders ... my mom specially she knows how much a person has to work hard ..she see s me so imagine seeing a guy on stage the diet the discipline ... which i am lucky ... in middle east usually families laugh when u say bodybuilding they dont think its a sport ... they think oh ya thats easy ..u go in gym u carry a few dumbbells u come back u r hulk!!!