Are we an outcast society???

[TomSizeMore]

I was sitting her wondering how many others where the "outcast" thier whole lives. Or more like loners who didn't quite fit in with the "popular" crowd. I had the worst self-esteem going through jr. high and high school it was pathetic. All I wanted to do was belong, but even though I was the "star athlete" and was on the honor roll time and time again, I didn't ever have a large friend base. I was a complete recluse for the most part and was very miserable inside. My only release was working out and it took me far in life. Not the whole putting on size part of it, but learning to sacrifice for something in return.

I feel like our society here is mainly made up of the same kind of people. Most of us have gone through the 1. no attention phase where we lack confidence 2. total attention phase where we are concieted and full of ourselves to 3. a comfort zone where we learn to accept others for what they are and accept ourselves for what we are. Now granted a lot of bb'ers get stuck in phase 2 and this would reflect the negative connotation/stereotype of bb'ers in general, but for the most part I believe that we are the natural born leaders and the "popular kids" end up envying us once the high school drama is over with.

I have learned to accept the fact that I will always have people look at me in a negative context because I look like someone who would be stuck on himself. this is part of life, and stereotypes are going to be there no matter what. But just like when your black, I can't complain and blame others. This is the life I chose and am comfortable with and what ultimately makes me happy. I have at points sacrificed what makes me happy for what I thought would make me happy, but as I grow into an adult, I realize that the path less traveled is often rewarded greatly.

 

[dbag333]

"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." -Dr. Seuss

I'm just wating for the anger and resentment to grow into "accept[ing] others for what they are and accept[ing] ourselves for what we are," as tom so eloquently put it, because right now its an intoxicating mixture of all three.

All I wanted junior high and beginning of highschool was to be "popular," and the like. sophmore year, I said "screw it," and started playing guitar, exercising and doing things that brought me pleasure. then by the end of senior year, after ignoring all the "it" people, I was suddenly wanted by the ladies, and intimidateing the guys.

perhaps that is why i am so cynical >

I now avoid fitting in at all costs.