Issues staying faithful.

P. Bateman

P. Bateman

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Do any of you have issues with staying faithful to the one you're with?

It seems I just can't do it. I've been with a girl for just over one year and my eye has already started to wonder. There is a girl at the gym that I frequent that has caught my eye, and I know it's only a matter of time before a move is made.

She has a ridculous body that just drips sex, she exudes it. I find myself so aroused when I'm near her.

I've never been able to remain faithful, no matter how hard I've tried. I simply like being with different women.

Does this make me a bad person?
 
If you want to mess around you should stay single imo im speaking from experience not having a go at you
 
don't get involved in a monogamous relationship if that isn't for you. Maybe you need to find yourself a nice girl who enjoys swinging or is bisexual or something, so you can go hunting together. Nothing wrong with being with different women, only when you've told somebody they're the only one.
 
olderfella said:
If you want to mess around you should stay single imo im speaking from experience not having a go at you
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This right here to save any heart ache.

My eyes wanders when I see something I like in the gym or where ever but it stops right there, I don't have the interest to pursue it. If you have that interest then I would just end it with your girl and be single
 
You guys ain't no pimps...f**kin' homos!!!

Kidding...I hear ya, I'm just a sick freak who gets off on the misery of others.
 
In all my relationships I was the one being faithful ... I'm not about to trust a guy again :shoot7:
 
i am hopelessly in love with my with so no problems here
 
It's the test. Go off so your levels are at 100 ng/dl and you'll be faithful.
 
I've been with my old lady for 29 &1/2 years. Been faithful the last 17 since we got married. Marriage sort of puts things in perspective. It's cheaper to keep her. And it doesn't hurt if your old lady is a hottie herself.
Sometimes I get the urge to wander, but in the end it's just not worth hurting my wife. I love her that much.
But when your doing 1200mg of test a week it definately is very hard sometimes.
 
Gain 30 lbs of fat. That might help too. Walking around ripped, smart, confident and with a good sense of humor is hurting your relationship.
 
Let me start by saying this -Men are naturally born hunters,we hunt our prey wether it be our food or our women , Its born into us to have what we want ,
Back in my younger years I was a um ,,,,unfaithful man ,,,,,I have been married twice and divorced twice both times due to a penis with its own mind per say .
I will say this ....you have not found the right women that satisfies your every need want and desire and thats the truth .
I have been with my Ol lady for 4 years now and never one time considered being unfaithful to her.She supports my every want ,wish ,need and cooks all my food . Its easy to love her and she puts me first with no exceptions and we get along great , She hunts with me , fishes with me , administers my AAS injections and she is just the one for me .
I dont know how old you are , But I grew out of that stage that you are in currently , as I mentioned ....when you find the "right" one you will know it and the faithfulness will come easy for you
Dont get me wrong ,,,I enjoyed my younger years and sampling everything that the buffett had to offer but I enjoy my life with one woman now and have no reason to look elsewhere.
 
P. Bateman said:
How long have you been with her?
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bateman ive been with her for over 7 years now and she gets more beautiful everyday--i thank god every day for sending her to me

if you dont feel that for your current girl then she isnt the one--go ahead and cheat--it doesnt make you a bad person
 
Before you do stop and ask yourself how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot and she was cheating on you.. I myself look, all men do but I couldn't cheat on my wife knowing it would break her heart! Not to mention I couldn't sleep at nights..
 
Freezerdude said:
Before you do stop and ask yourself how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot and she was cheating on you.. I myself look, all men do but I couldn't cheat on my wife knowing it would break her heart! Not to mention I couldn't sleep at nights..
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You're right, and it would bother me. But I'm sure our relationship was doomed form the door. We had issues from the beginning. She was a rebound and I was incredibly lonely, thus willing to put up with a lot of garbage.

Within a month of our being together she went to a house party and had a slight, indiscretion so to speak. And then there is her drinking, she becomes very abusive and infantile when she drinks, and I think I've just become bitter over time.

Now that the relationship is going well, or as well as can be expected, I find myself losing intrest, wanting to be away more and more.

The problem with leaving is that she's really not a bad person, we're just not compatible as a couple. I do not want to hurt her, but I fear I will hurt her far more by staying in the relationship.

I guess in retrospect I know what has to be done, I'm simply delaying the inevitable.

Thanks for listening, kids.
 
ozzy69 said:
bateman ive been with her for over 7 years now and she gets more beautiful everyday--i thank god every day for sending her to me
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That's amazing, truly is. I only hope, no pray, that I can find a love like that some day. You Ozzy, may be one of the luckiest men on earth as far as I'm concerned.
 
Myself I have a lot in common with Ozzy, I'm very much in love with my wife and would never do anything to jeopardize our marriage, nor would she, true love is hard to find and once a man does he should cherrish it.. Now with that being said do we have arguments sure all couples do especially if you have 3 kids in the house like we did for many years but now it just our 6 y/o daughter and things have gotten a lot better.. But myself I couldn't ask for a better wife or a more supportive friend to help me acheive all my dreams and goals. Not to mention she does almost all my pinning so I have my own Nurse as well lol.. Good luck with your choices and your relationship bro..
 
once a cheater always a cheater?..... I'm only 21 been in a relationship for 3 1/2 years.. I'm still young and I don't want to be with meaningless whores.. but whatever floats your boat i guess..
 
Nah bro it doesn't make you a bad person. If you see a hot girl and don't think about or want to fuck her your either blind or a homo.. Sounds like your over the girl your with now, but since it's comfortable your sticking around.. Look into the future bro, do you want her in it? I mean why would you want to be with a chick who is hostile, and she already went astray one time that you know of, could be more that you don't know about..

I say fuck it, take her out to dinner, and before you order anything not even a drink, start looking around, under the table, behind you, under the menu, then look at her and tell her you lost your feelings for her, then get up and go "make your movie" with the gym chick...
 
maybe ur just wasting your time with the with... i used to have this problem as well... until i met my fiancee.. not to seem pussy wooped but i hardly talk to other women now... i love my girl...

Seems like if you are wanting to mess around after only one year the girl you are with may not meet your needs... Thats the way it was for me...

I dunno i am not trying to be your dad or anything... just sharing my experience.
 
It's always easier to want something you don't have.
If she's "dripping sex" then you are probably not the only one fawning over her so take heed.
On the other hand, I'm not partial to drunks or angry drunks. That combo in-and-of itself would send me flying for the nearest exit. Obviously, her indiscetion, so early in your relationship, probably scarred you that if she really cared...etc,. etc.
You are a strong man, P. Bateman, and the women love Alpha males.
If you dump this one, I'm sure she won't be the last to say someday, "Damn, should've held on to that one!"
The older I got the more crumbs I left in my wake.
You hold onto the ones that deserve you, to the rest, just try not to ruin their psyche for the guy who truly loves them.
 
All that strange pussy looks good to me too.Then I think about all the problems that come with it,no thanks I'll stay at home.
 
I wouldn't cheat on my wife. I was in a marriage & got cheated on. I wouldn't do that to another after what I felt myself.
 
I'm going to stay on the straight and narrow. If I can't do it, I'll just end the relationship.

Thanks guys/gals.
 
I'm still young. Been with my girl for nearly 2 years. Never cheated but I know what you mean, don't 'pursue' it but if it just falls into your lap which quite often it does even when you least expect it.. Then it's hard to say no..
 
Jonnyboy said:
I'm still young. Been with my girl for nearly 2 years. Never cheated but I know what you mean, don't 'pursue' it but if it just falls into your lap which quite often it does even when you least expect it.. Then it's hard to say no..
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Very hard.
 
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