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My wife is due any day now with our first child, whom happens to be a girl. I grew up with mostly male cousins and brothers. We were all pushed pretty hard in sports among other things to do well, by our fathers. Basically we had to "be a man". Most of us boys in the family did do well and succeed in sports but we all hate our fathers now. lol. So how do you try and get a little girl to get out there in the world and do the right things??? I don't want to push her away but want to see her not being insecure of her self and afriad to do something and fearing failure. I don't know how to be around a little girl. They seem so fragile. A son would be easier because boys and girls are different. You can tell a boy "don't be a pussy, or you're tackling like a bitch", and we don't get down on ourselves, we get mad and try harder. A son you can push down a hill the first time on a bike or throw him in the pool to teach him how to swim (anybody have dads out there like that??). I just need advice from a girl/woman since yall would know best. How were you influenced, how did you get into athletics, how did you handle pressure/stress, etc..... anything would help.
 
I'll get back to you tonight. We had 3 boys then had a girl.
 
Ok, first i want to say CONGRATS!!! yea!! hurray love baby girls (i have one).

Let me begin my saying that there are no certainties in parenthood.. you will come to know this. I dont see any reason why you cant modivate and support your little girl when the time comes for sports,fishing,swimming etc.. You dont know what she will turn out like.. She might be just as competative as you!! Who knows? Best advice i can give you is to take everything day by day. Just love her and lead her in the right direction. Hope for the best once you do.

My father was a HUGE influence in my life growing up... and he DID throw me in the pool!! lol i did get hit in the face with the baseball the first couple times.. im ok! lol and i still love him. its all in the way you go about it. You cant forsee the future, all you can do is your best.


hope this helps and congradulations again!
 
OH man!!!! Pit having a girl...I can see it now! It'll be like Hulk Hogan and his daughter...Keepin the girl on a chain and keepin dem boys at bay! I'd hate to be the uy who takes your girl to the prom, "yes sir, mr. pit, i'll have her home by 10:30"
 
yeah, i remember ya pops at wrestling matches, he was one crazy white dude. We were more afraid of him than we were to wrestle you! lol
 
First of all congratulations on your soon to be bundle of joy.. :) You are right, little girls are different. Little girls are more emotional and you need to choose your words a little more carefully. The best advice I can give you would be to instill in your daughter that she can do and be anything she wants to be.

Give her constent reassurement that she is strong and that she can achieve greatness. Of course this advice will be more helpful later in her life than in the beginning.. :)

I grew up with a lot of boys in the neighborhood so I did a lot of "boy" things. Playing in the dirt, riding bikes, etc.. But I also had a big sister and we did "girl" things like playing house, makeup, etc... So the diversity was great.

Get your daughter involved in activities, socialize her. That will build her independence. It's important today for girls/women to feel self-reliant. You don't want your daughter to grow up having to depend on a man for her happiness.

But please remember, she is a little girl... Cuddle with her, play dolls with her, let her play with your hair... She will look up to you, you will be her hero.. Remember you are the first impression of a male role model. What she see's in you is essentially what she will look for in a relationship someday... So be patient, and caring, yet masculine...

Little girls are a joy, she will light up your heart... Enjoy every moment you can with her, and once again congratulations!! party:
 
wow...... thanks ladies for the great advice. Sort of brought a tear to my eye. I guess I don't really want to push her at all, into anything. That was one thing I was afraid of. It's more important to let her choose what she wants to do in life, rather than being the dad that makes her do what I want. I'll save that for my boy someday. lol. I will try and let her do whatever she chooses to do and just support her along the way, even if she wants to be in ballet instead of boxing:rolleyes2 Idon't want to live through her and making her do something she doesn't want to do. That's the part where I think boys differ, I was forced into sports at a young age, eventually liking to do them but at first hesitant. I'm not loking foward to the "Oh my god I'm so fat and ugly" days!!!! But that's a few years away from now. I'm glad I'm having a girl, because for the first time in my life I have a reason to be a little softer. I grew up with cousins beating me, physical sports, pitbulls and everything else non-girly. It'll be kinda weird having this little girl putting make-up on me and making me play dress up and all the cute things us guys pick on girls for doing!!!
 
DaPit26 said:
wow...... thanks ladies for the great advice. Sort of brought a tear to my eye. I guess I don't really want to push her at all, into anything. That was one thing I was afraid of. It's more important to let her choose what she wants to do in life, rather than being the dad that makes her do what I want. I'll save that for my boy someday. lol. I will try and let her do whatever she chooses to do and just support her along the way, even if she wants to be in ballet instead of boxing:rolleyes2 Idon't want to live through her and making her do something she doesn't want to do. That's the part where I think boys differ, I was forced into sports at a young age, eventually liking to do them but at first hesitant. I'm not loking foward to the "Oh my god I'm so fat and ugly" days!!!! But that's a few years away from now. I'm glad I'm having a girl, because for the first time in my life I have a reason to be a little softer. I grew up with cousins beating me, physical sports, pitbulls and everything else non-girly. It'll be kinda weird having this little girl putting make-up on me and making me play dress up and all the cute things us guys pick on girls for doing!!!
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Itll be so much fun!!! :kiss:
 
Your right you don't have to push her into things. But guiding her would be a better way to put it. Sometimes girls are insecure and unsure of themselves. Push her just enough so that she can have the courage to try different things.

I think you are going to be a fabulous daddy! :)
 
Friscochick said:
I was so touched by this cjas. :eertoast:
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Thanks girl. When I was little, my dad was my everything. I remember going to baseball games, and even the hardware store with him. I looked up to him with such admiration...

And I'm sure Pit's baby girl will do the same. :kiss:
 
cjas said:
But please remember, she is a little girl... Cuddle with her, play dolls with her, let her play with your hair... She will look up to you, you will be her hero.. Remember you are the first impression of a male role model. What she see's in you is essentially what she will look for in a relationship someday... So be patient, and caring, yet masculine...QUOTE]

DEEP!!! kind of makes me nervous, I don't want her to have a guy like me!!! :ugh: Very good point with the first impression! I think that a lot of young girls these days don't get enough good male role models. There's more divorced families these days than married. My bros and I grew up different than my lil sister. We grew up with our parents divorced and us boys didn't really care. My little sister's only 12 and she used to cry at night sometimes, because dad wasn't there. She just had big rough and tough brothers to take her to dinner and shopping and yes even tell little boys that if we see her cry just once because of them, that we'd break their legs. I see that girls handle things like that differently. I think a girl that lacks a father figure is worse off than a boy. Boys don't typically get with girls who beat them up (ok, some of us, lol) and that abuse them but girls find the shittiest guys out there and are victims for life! That's the last thing I want for my daughter. I work part-time at an abused women and children center called SAF house. Women come in and tell me about how their husbands cheat on them, beat them and treat them lie animals. So far not one of these woman had their father in the picture. I will definately be there for her. I can see her yelling at ME and me crying. lol!! She'll probably walk all over me because I have trouble discipling children for some reason. Adults, I have no patience with but kids, they're tough to yell at. I'm 22 now and not close to my father still, and that's what scares me...I want my kids to love me and also respect me. We respected my dad, but only through fear. I think I'll be fine other than the mall trips, the chick flicks and boys :axe:
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cjas said:
Your right you don't have to push her into things. But guiding her would be a better way to put it. Sometimes girls are insecure and unsure of themselves. Push her just enough so that she can have the courage to try different things. QUOTE]

That is exactly what I was trying to say, but you said it better
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cjas said:
Thanks girl. When I was little, my dad was my everything. I remember going to baseball games, and even the hardware store with him. I looked up to him with such admiration...

And I'm sure Pit's baby girl will do the same. :kiss:
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That's so cool. and I bet you appreciated those times in the hardware store when your dad's looking at the tool section for hours!!!
 
Friscochick said:
Itll be so much fun!!! :kiss:
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I know I can't wait!!!!!!!!! I've never been this excited ever. At first I didn't want a girl because I thought it was going to be too hard, now I'm glad we're having a little girl, it'll be different for me. I won't be DaPit anymore I'll be DaPuss.
 
DaPit26 said:
I know I can't wait!!!!!!!!! I've never been this excited ever. At first I didn't want a girl because I thought it was going to be too hard, now I'm glad we're having a little girl, it'll be different for me. I won't be DaPit anymore I'll be DaPuss.
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LOL stop... hahah you will not! It will be wonderful! and youll still be studly 'DAPIT"
 
I have nothing to say, they convered it all. I will say our daughter got treated no different than the boys, and she is a slight tomboy. But she is deffinately all girlie girl.
 
thanks guys. I appreciate the support/help...especially to frisco, with the whole studly comment :kiss:
 
well I have a daughter and she can do anythign a boy can do and some things better - she likes to pump iron and do martial arts and always likes to be with daddy

daughters are very special - even though a son would have been nice also - I just wanted a healthy child - that was all
 
Bench Press Barbie anyone? She is teh hawt. Just raise her up nice and strong (mentally) and she should be good to go.
 
Mudge said:
Bench Press Barbie anyone? She is teh hawt. Just raise her up nice and strong (mentally) and she should be good to go.
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PUUURRRR-FECT! :kiss:
 
Mudge said:
Bench Press Barbie anyone? She is teh hawt. Just raise her up nice and strong (mentally) and she should be good to go.
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Hey now!! Thats not a bad idea! 'Bench Press Barbie' I kinda like that!
 
Now that is what I'm talking about!! Extremely powerful, feminine looking chick! Rock on Sista!!:igok:
 
no kidding you have to give her credit - sexy, attractive and strong too

But I still like my good friend Becca Swanson - hard to beat that girl when it comes to strength
 
True that, keep in mind what a small girl Kara is though. Kara was an olympic lifter who fell into powerlifting via a guy she became engaged to, unfortunately half of that scenario didn't work out, but she loves PL.

Ryan Kennely is already all over that though (thats awesome for them both), so ladies the position of 'my favorite woman in the gym' is still open! ;)
 
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