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ozzy69

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i told the dark one this story today while it all happened...we took little oz to a place called monkey joe's its a place with indoor bounce houses and slides etc....

well it was packed and my wife, the saint she is, she tells me not to start stuff with any parents if something happens and let the staff solve the problem--cuz i usually run my mouth or fists

so i let little man play and mrs oz hold baby girl oz and of course some fat shit older kid falls on little oz so i let it slide

how is it an anger issue if you want to protect your kids--granted im bigger and meaner than most dads but whose fault is that

what would you guys do
 
Immediate examination of the situation at hand.
Then realize if it's going to run my son's fun by short ending the time there cos of the potential confrontation. But I would have to at the least let my point be know.
Bottom line is there just cause.
 
Ozzy they are just kids man. Let them play. Dont protect your little boy from every little bump or he will turn out to expect that all the time.
 
Damn it D why didn't you say this to me this afternoon....and he was so happy being there he ran up to his mom and said "I'm making friends mommy" and he ran off to play...I guess cuz my dad wasn't there when I needed him I just want to be there for Brody and Gemma
 
ozzy69 said:
Damn it D why didn't you say this to me this afternoon....and he was so happy being there he ran up to his mom and said "I'm making friends mommy" and he ran off to play...I guess cuz my dad wasn't there when I needed him I just want to be there for Brody and Gemma
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Because it never occured to me til now. I was in ass beat mode like you were earlier today.
 
I feel ya, Oz. I get stupid over protective in those places too. Almost like I look for a fight. I wish I could just announce over the PA, "If any other child looks, touches or otherwise disturbes my child in a manner I deem unreasonable, I will kick the teeth through the back of that child's guardian's head forthwith".
 
Darkness said:
Because it never occured to me til now. I was in ass beat mode like you were earlier today.
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Why were you in ass beat mode? Safe to assume you and willi worked out prior to eating so your aggresion levels were high?
 
I don't really know how much I can contribute here. Recent opinions about me are pretty much that I am borderline mental and look like I am going to punch someone out most of the time. It's become a problem. i am just intense and my physicality makes it worse. Face it, if you have big broad shoulders, veins in your forehead and a visibly muscular upper chest people think you are going to go off. Now if you are aggravated people are fearful. I've been on elevators and people wit for the next car. We are just that disturbing. Now through in a situation where some doink dad with a spoiled shit kid turns around and holds your 3 year old to his ass and farts, well whose fault is it that you chuck the kid across the ball bin and beat his yammering dad into a coma?
 
I hear you, Ozzy, loud and clear.
I'm just like you guys too when it comes to kids.
Case in point, when my daughter was in pre-school, three times in a row, when I went to pick her up, a half-breed white/black kid had his hands on her.
I scorned her, "What are you doing letting that boy handle you?" (He had her by the arm but no difference to me.)
I told her, "Listen, your body belongs to you and nobody is allowed to touch you unless they get your expressed and explicit permission!"
(I explained what those words mean and had her pronounce them.)
She said, "I tell him to let go of me but he doesn't listen."
"Well," I said, "then here's what you do, the next time he grabs you, tell him to let go, if he doesn't, get into the stance I showed you and punch him right in the nose."
"Make him bleed,' I told her, "there's nothing like a little blood running down your throat to make you wake up and pay attention." "Do it," I said, "and you will be free once and for all from his unwanted touching."

Two days later, sitting in the livingroom and wife and daughter are very smug about something. "What happened," I asked?
After some hemming and hawing it came out. The boy grabbed her, she asked he let her go, he didn't, so she kicked him in the face and gave him a bloody nose.
"Good job," I said, while the wife was crossing her hand across her throat. Then I added, "but you know that's wrong to do in school, right?"
She was 4, he was 6. He never touched her again.

Teach him how to throw a punch, Ozzy, or better yet how to kick.
 
As long as nobody is a burden to little ozzy it's OK I guess.

On the other hand if somebody was to hurt him, he/she shouldn't get away with it! You can call that collateral damage.
 
Glycomann said:
I don't really know how much I can contribute here. Recent opinions about me are pretty much that I am borderline mental and look like I am going to punch someone out most of the time. It's become a problem. i am just intense and my physicality makes it worse. Face it, if you have big broad shoulders, veins in your forehead and a visibly muscular upper chest people think you are going to go off. Now if you are aggravated people are fearful. I've been on elevators and people wit for the next car. We are just that disturbing.
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So they see you as 6'5 and 300, not 5'8 and 200?lol :D
 
Darkness said:
Ozzy they are just kids man. Let them play. Dont protect your little boy from every little bump or he will turn out to expect that all the time.
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So true! Be protective but use sound judgement.
 
i used to tell my kids to punch him next time he does something like that. But now as a grandpa I watch my older grandson push and shove around the younger one, they are both pretty stout for their ages (2 and 3). I have to stuff my desire to protect the younger one sometimes. But they learn from that stuff.
A good example was Christmas day. The younger one had something the older one wanted so the older boy grabbed it from the younger ones hands then shoved him on the ground. The little dude was crying and looking at me, I just shrugged my shoulders, so he picked up a big plastic car, smacked his older brother in the head and go his toy back.
Not saying that is the best way to handle things, but there was a definate learning curve there as to the factthat sometimes you just have to handle things yourself.
 
Glycomann said:
I don't really know how much I can contribute here. Recent opinions about me are pretty much that I am borderline mental and look like I am going to punch someone out most of the time. It's become a problem. i am just intense and my physicality makes it worse. Face it, if you have big broad shoulders, veins in your forehead and a visibly muscular upper chest people think you are going to go off. Now if you are aggravated people are fearful. I've been on elevators and people wit for the next car. We are just that disturbing. Now through in a situation where some doink dad with a spoiled shit kid turns around and holds your 3 year old to his ass and farts, well whose fault is it that you chuck the kid across the ball bin and beat his yammering dad into a coma?
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that gets you one rep point LOL! thanks
 
ive got a 12 year old girl.. I would protect her just like any of you with your kids. I'm not your size but I have your intensity and as a physically fit, larger bald guy who's not afraid to make eye contact most people give me some space...

that said as a dad I respond to trends not events...meaning one time is no big deal..and when accidents happen and I let them go..it's good for my daughter to learn to respond on her own when needed...BUT if an event is repeated and becomes a trend then I'm happy to have a "conversation" with the other parent...

of course sometime you have to follow your instinct and if you have concerns about someone you need to honor that..before anything happens even once....
 
What pisses me off is when kids are running wild and keep doing it and their parents never say a word. I know kids get wild sometimes but when they keep doing it and knocking other kids over and just generally disrupting everything that is too much.
 
BikerTrash said:
Hey !!! WTF is wrong with 5'8" at 200 lbs????? wise guy? lol
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Nothing, just most guys that size aren't scaring people off from an elevator, unless they were slapped bigtime with an ugly stick, weird stick, psycho stick, displaying a gun, etc etc.lol :p Hey I'm guessing Glyc was just being sarcastic about the elevator, as am I! :D
 
At the Tiesto Show last night, there was a couple standing over from me, kept looking at me staring at the light show and were laughing.
I had to laugh, too, because I looked like the Terminator in black.
Probably thought I was psycho;)
 
Allow him the opportunity to struggle and win/fail, to establish himself, gaining a strong chin forward into the future great man he will become, as there are so few of them anymore. It's so very hard to do, but don't throw him a lifeline until he is going down for the third time. In most cases, you will discover your assistance is not needed in children's matters. . . .

Show little OZ and all the children you encounter the "quiet strength" a gentleman carries, through the example you set.
 
BikerTrash said:
Hey !!! WTF is wrong with 5'8" at 200 lbs????? wise guy? lol
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I'm 5'8, 200lbs, people do their best to avoid me on a regular basis. Except for kids, those little shits will come up to you no matter what you like like. "Look what I can do".
"Go away kid, ya bother me."
"I'm four and a half."
"Hey kid, where's your mother?"
"Fuck yourself, asshole!"

Man I hate other peoples' kids.
 
Mondo said:
Allow him the opportunity to struggle and win/fail, to establish himself, gaining a strong chin forward into the future great man he will become, as there are so few of them anymore. It's so very hard to do, but don't throw him a lifeline until he is going down for the third time. In most cases, you will discover your assistance is not needed in children's matters. . . .

Show little OZ and all the children you encounter the "quiet strength" a gentleman carries, through the example you set.
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Excellent advice and more important than protecting a small boy from a clumsy larger kid, is the type of example you set. Ozzy, you're a great guy and a super dad, but I think you were being overprotective here. And consider how it would look if you were arrested for assault at a kid's romper room. ;)
 
Lots of good advice here and I don't have anything really intelligent to add.
Im a new dad as of 4 years ago and my little girl likes to go to the playground. I watch her like a hawk and if someone trounced her, Id be there. I think thats natural not anger issues. I need to learn balance and not be overprotective but wow, thats hard sometimes. As Ive said, we both share the experience of the absent dad. So I, like you, am trying to do better than that for my child.
Final answer, I would have felt the same way.
 
Ozzy, maybe you were just in a bad mood and looking for a reason to go off. Like someone already said, they are just kids and I'm sure the other kid didn't do it on purpose. The same two rules apply to adults and kids....

if you don't want to be bumped into or have your shoes stepped on, then don't go out to a club....
and if you don't want your kids playing rough or anything like that with other kids, then don't take them to bounce house places or public play parks.
 
DrMoney23 said:
Ozzy, maybe you were just in a bad mood and looking for a reason to go off. Like someone already said, they are just kids and I'm sure the other kid didn't do it on purpose. The same two rules apply to adults and kids....

if you don't want to be bumped into or have your shoes stepped on, then don't go out to a club....
and if you don't want your kids playing rough or anything like that with other kids, then don't take them to bounce house places or public play parks.
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Kidding me, really? Man, I have to disagree.
 
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