read if u want

  • Thread starter Thread starter bruster
  • Start date Start date
B

bruster

Guest
guys and gals.. this has really nothing to do with any ss forum or ss for that matter...so if this doesn't interest you quit now
even if no one reads this i had to get it off my chest. .and over the past few weeks as a member of ss ive come you trust the members and moderators... so what would u do?

well to start off a few months back i cheated on my gf.. which was the worst thing i have ever done in my whole life.. i mean SHE is the most perfect woman in the world... sweet, beautiful, caring, and was mine.. well a few months later me and the girl i cheated with told( who we will call) "sheila"(my gf) what had happend.. well of course she never wanted to c me and all of htat.. well 2 months have passed and i have been nothing less of perfect to her.. day in and out.. nothing but gracious that she is even remotely with me..and most has been good.. well sunday she said she didn't want to go through it anymore(throught what i don't know?) and said we should quit... well we talked and she decided to just take a lil time off but with no other ppl, just time apart.. but no lying,cheating..etc /....well the 1st night she didn't tell me and went to a friends house and was gettin drunk and stayin over there..as were many guys.. i got mad.. one thing to another.. i looked through her phone and a guy that was stayin ther had called her and text msg her all night.. well she lied bout that to start wit.. but if i bring it up she gets mad.. well i brought it up tonight. and she just said "bruster" i just don't want to c u anymore...i said well at least give it ur 2 weeks and keep and opend mind.. "shelia" said, y when i already know i don't wanna be with u...... guys i don't know what to do...i want her more than life... more than size.. and even put her over working out;) and now she doesn't want me.. what to do? so she decided 2 wks of no communcation.... i cna't be w/o her... i mean the ring is in lay-a-way...i really can't live w/o her.. any thoughts would help me.......

BRUSTER
 
yikes what to say? sounds like you love her. unless you both can agree an eye for an eye and start fresh, i don't think it will work out. once trust is broken it is hard to continue on.

take the 2 weeks and really think about the situation.
 
Bro this may sound harsh, but here goes. It sounds like you have a case of I want what I can't have. It's natural, someone tells you don't look in that draw and leave you in the room by yourself, all you can think of is what in the draw or why can't I look in the draw.

It seem like you emotion for your girl have went up because shes just about said no more. Now you realize what you had and want it back to the way it was. That'll never happen, you cheated, so it can't ever be the same.

Now if she did or does some thing with another guy, how will you feel? If you'd think shes a whore or what ever for being with another guy. Then let her go, because it could happen and there will nothing you can say about it, because you are guily of the samething.

You made a statemnet when you cheated and that was I don't care what happens. I'm going to be with this girl, because this is the most important thing in my life. You might not of thought that in your head, but that's what you were doing. Now you have to live with that decision. If your girl forgives you and you 2 can move on, use this as a lesson and don't repeat it. If you don't stay together, it's still a lesson learned, don't repeat it.

Love is more then sex, sex is a small part of love, you can even love witout sex:eek: Sex is the ultimate gift that comes with a love relationship. Your giving up all that you are, to someone you trust and love. Then when you go and have sex with someone else, you've cheapened the experiance for that person, that trusted you with their life and body.

What ever happens lean from this. Here's what my dad told me when I was in my teens, "anyone can be with lots of women, but it takes a man to keep one women satisfied" satisfaction is more then sex, sex is a small part of it.

Like I said I hope this isn't to heavy for you.

JohnnyB
 
I revert to the ole' saying, "What goes around comes around!"
 
bruster said:
me and the girl i cheated with DID NOT have sex
Click to expand...

.........then exactly what was the "cheating" you mentioned all about :confused:
 
I don't care if all you did was kiss. You betrayed a trust. It can never be the same again.
 
I know how you feel. Same shit happened to me last year, I got so stressed out over my x. This is a good time to hit the gym. Get your mind off of her, let her come to you. I guarantee you if she loves she will come back to you.
 
Mad4Iron said:
I don't care if all you did was kiss. You betrayed a trust. It can never be the same again.
Click to expand...
Amen, once you brake the trust, it can get to be hard to trust again

JohnnyB
 
JohnnyB said:
Amen, once you brake the trust, it can get to be hard to trust again

JohnnyB
Click to expand...

Bravo ......... life's too short to stay in a toxic relationship
 
:S

:S

well now i have found she has been doin her share of lying here lately as well.. well as of lastnight it ended.. i told her i've done all i can do to show her how sorry i am and how much i love her and know of nothing else to do... so until she wants me we are nothing because i can't make her love me or be with me

:booze: (last two nights)
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

New Posts

Trending

Back
Top