Holidays and the ones we've lost
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wallyd
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I’m so sorry Demi! My dad just turned 83 on the 14. I visit him pretty much every weekend because I’m so scared of what is coming eventually. I honestly don’t have any words & tbh when it does happen I’m going to be in your shoes. I’m much closer to my dad than my mom & I know I’m going to be a mess when that dreaded day comes. I hope you can find peace & happiness in those you still have bye your side.
Myvirtue
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I’m really sorry for your loss. I lost my dad when I was 17. He passed in his sleep with no warning, and it completely changed everything for me. We shared a lot of hobbies, and at first I honestly didn’t know how I would keep going without him.
Over time, the pain became less constant, but it never fully goes away. It just changes. What helped me most was allowing myself to feel it instead of trying to push it down, and leaning into the people still around me.
You’re not weak for struggling, especially during the holidays. If you ever need to vent or just talk, I’m here.
Over time, the pain became less constant, but it never fully goes away. It just changes. What helped me most was allowing myself to feel it instead of trying to push it down, and leaning into the people still around me.
You’re not weak for struggling, especially during the holidays. If you ever need to vent or just talk, I’m here.
BigTex
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Sorry to hear this. Unfortunately, as we age, we start losing everyone around us. It is never easy. My wife and I have both lost our fathers, I lost my brother a few years ago and now my mother has end-stage dementia. My wife's mother is pretty much in the same shape. Yes, time heals everything. Just remember YOUR wellness is top priority. You have people who depend on you and you have to be alright for them. Stay strong.
