So i dont see myself getting married for a long time, but I do want a kid. I know a few people that are good friends that would be willing to have a kid with me. Is there anyway to draw up a contract, so that if in the following years they become vicious (i dont trust anyone) they cant take me to court fo child support and custody.
Is it possible to have a child with a friend?
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Glycomann
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I guess I'm much more traditional. This sounds like a bad idea on many levels. Not something I would entertain. When you find a woman that you can respect and love then it's time to make a family together. Anything else is substandard.
I dont know if i will ever find taht . I know they keep saying that there is the one for everyone. but I dont see it happening anytime soon and i m just getting older. i am 27 right now.
I have not been in a lot of relationships, only two serious ones actually but I feel like they always end up going downhill after 10 months.
Bro u are still verrrrrry young and im sure u will find love in the next 5-10 years but if not i see no problem with having a child with a friend who wants the same thing...Although with a baby mama there is ALWAYS some kind of drama....I'm 30 and have an 8 year old and not a day goes by without arguing with my baby mama...
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cowboytroy
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I'm confused? He's says "that man" and you guys say find the right woman. Bananas you male or female?
huh what are u refering to?? I am a 100% straight male. LOL.
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Glycomann
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It takes some time to understand women at a deep enough level to both tolerate how different they are and to love what they are. Of course, it takes a good one to let you see it all.
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John Benz
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You sound like a selfish and irresponsible kid. Every child deserves to grow up in a close knit family with 2 loving parents. :noway:
gonna agree is benz and glyco--its a bad idea and very selfish
having my son was the greatest thing to ever happen to me and a lot of guys here will say the same thing so i understand why you want a kid
find the right person, fall in love, have a child, love that child and cherish them with all your heart and soul, establish a good family unit and show give that kid what they deserve a warm and loving home--my parents were together for 33 yrs and i think i get my values for seeing my parents together for that long and not saying "i quit" till it just got to bad for both of them
relationships are hard if they were easy lawyers would be out of work
having my son was the greatest thing to ever happen to me and a lot of guys here will say the same thing so i understand why you want a kid
find the right person, fall in love, have a child, love that child and cherish them with all your heart and soul, establish a good family unit and show give that kid what they deserve a warm and loving home--my parents were together for 33 yrs and i think i get my values for seeing my parents together for that long and not saying "i quit" till it just got to bad for both of them
relationships are hard if they were easy lawyers would be out of work
Selfish yes . Irresponsible no
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John Benz
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Hard to separate them in this case. You are giving no thought to the mental and emotional well being of the child. I got divorced when my daughter was 3 and a half. Sarah has had a very rough time because of the divorce and has gone through a lot of stress..is envious of her friends with 2 loving parents. So, having a child without taking their emotional well being into account is not only irresponsible, but reprehensible.
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Freezerdude
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I'd have to agree with the rest of the guys bro, A kid needs both parents around just think what you'd be teaching your child.. A child needs both parents around I'm like Ozzy maybe I'm just old fashion or something but I couldn't imagine not having both of my parents around this June the 2nd my parents will be married 70 years!!! Yeah 70 that's a long fucking time to be alive much less married!! So I say WAIT OR REGREAT IT LATER!!
BikerTrash
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Go buy yourself a Dog , A big Ole BullMastiff ,,there just like kids except better ,
They dont yell ,fight ,scream,they dont talk back to you or steal your smokes or money .
Its just like having kids and the good thing is , the dog will listen to you .
They dont yell ,fight ,scream,they dont talk back to you or steal your smokes or money .
Its just like having kids and the good thing is , the dog will listen to you .
LMAO!! where were you 3 yrs ago with this advice!
BikerTrash
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Fellas , Look in all honesty I love my kids and I will go down to the death for any of them , But lets be honest here. Kids are a pain in the ass most the time ,they talk back ,they make messes and dont pick stuff up , they eat all my food and use all the toilet paper and not put a new roll on. They cry and whine , they always want this or that .
So lets be real here to the OP in this thread, Get yourself a Big Dog , like a Mastiff . they want 110% of your attention , they eat what you feed them ,they dont talk back and when there told to do something , they damn sure do it and dont whine about it . My Mastiff always picks her toys up after she is done playing with them and she sleeps right beside me , I paint her toe nails, brush her hair and play with her all the time , talk her to the park , take her walkin gin the woods, we go fishing and etc,......Best damn Kid in the world is a MAstiff dog .......
My suggested adivse coming from me , I have been married twice , divorced twice and got a whole damn flock of kids.....that I love and cherish , and never regret BUT <,,,had I known back then I would have got a dog ........They truely are a mans best friend ,,,,,,So agian I say , Get a dog and not some little wussy toy poodle or ankle biteing rat dog ,,but a Big OL Mans dog .
So lets be real here to the OP in this thread, Get yourself a Big Dog , like a Mastiff . they want 110% of your attention , they eat what you feed them ,they dont talk back and when there told to do something , they damn sure do it and dont whine about it . My Mastiff always picks her toys up after she is done playing with them and she sleeps right beside me , I paint her toe nails, brush her hair and play with her all the time , talk her to the park , take her walkin gin the woods, we go fishing and etc,......Best damn Kid in the world is a MAstiff dog .......
My suggested adivse coming from me , I have been married twice , divorced twice and got a whole damn flock of kids.....that I love and cherish , and never regret BUT <,,,had I known back then I would have got a dog ........They truely are a mans best friend ,,,,,,So agian I say , Get a dog and not some little wussy toy poodle or ankle biteing rat dog ,,but a Big OL Mans dog .
Thanks for the honest opinion.
Wow. true. I never looked at it THAT way.
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Dawgpound_Hank
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Right here ^^^!
My baby is 1 month old today, and let me tell ya, your life will take a 180 degree change whether you like it or not!
Forget about sleeping again for 5 hours straight, let alone 7 or 8 hours. You will be awake every 2-3 hours with baby crying for milk, diaper change, or just want to be picked up and held. Sometimes they will scream and cry even though you've covered all bases, ie, fed him, burped him, changed diaper, etc. I've been an uncle since I was 5, being that I have many older sisters with many kids. I've did my fair share of babysitting for them when they was kids. But let me tell ya, until you have your OWN and experience FIRST-HAND all the responsibilties involved, you don't have a clue of how much is involved. A child demands many sacrafices, so be careful what you wish for dude! 
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4thAD
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What's with the don't want her going after you for child support bs? When you have a child you are responsible for that child until he or she becomes an adult. Even after that they will need you financially and emotionally. If your not prepared for that, then your not prepared to be a father. Being a parent, is one of the most consuming things one can do, but it is also so worth it. I'm chillin with my youngest right now. Been with him all day, and I wouldn't trade this time with him for anything.
I think you missed the point about child support.
